It can feel like there is a rule book in motherhood that we must follow or else – especially now with millions turning to their phones and giving their positive spin on how to deal with the current lockdown. It can be completely overwhelming.
Let me be crystal clear – there is no single way to be a mother, because no two families are exactly alike. And furthermore, even your family isn’t the same today as it was last year, last month, or even yesterday for that matter – never truer than in today’s world.
Families are constantly changing, and therefore your mothering abilities must keep adapting too. It takes patience, commitment to personal development, and perseverance to find your own Mama-Groove. It is important to remind yourself that problems are part of the process, part of a bigger puzzle, and not your fault… so do your best to let the ‘mom guilt’ go.
The solution to the challenges lie within you. And the solution can be summed up in one word: balance. Your ability to orchestrate balance within yourself and your family are the cornerstone to a happy, healthy, and connected life. Yet, most mothers will share with me that finding and maintaining balance is really stinking hard. Which is exactly why I created The Family Balance Method.
Many mothers have shared with me that the problems of their loved ones are the biggest factor in their own unbalanced living. Yet, we must be mindful that these perceived problems are serving as mirrors, illuminating areas of individual growth that are needed within ourselves.
Very often, those around us are merely reflecting the energy we give off. After all, it is much easier to notice the behavior of others than to take responsibility for our own. But, if we want big results in a shorter amount of time, then we must be prepared to dive deep into our internal workings.
The question I pose to you is this: How open are you to change – real change? Changing not just your outer appearance but your real insides? Most of us have a tendency to postpone our own happiness and health but what I have learned (the hard way) is that we either choose to grow or the universe forces us to. And when the universe forces us to, it’s usually not very pretty.
And yet here it is, a message from the Universe; Coronavirus is forcing change on all of us and as hard as it might be to unpick the crumbs from your bra, clean the jam from your phone and deal with your husbands consistent presence – it is upto us to make the first move to create the change.
The first step of any journey is deeply rooted in the power of choice. Our mind’s clarity on and commitment to that choice dictates our level of motivation. If we are clear and committed, we will feel high levels of motivation. If we are unclear or uncommitted, motivation will be low.
Luckily, with a bit of discipline we are able to take over our impulses and direct our mind to choices and commitments that will best serve us. Let the choice to live a happy, healthy, life be a vibrant YES!
Don’t worry about the HOW (How it will work? How it will fit into your schedule? How it will be received by your partner or children?)… if it feels like the right decision for you at this moment – then listen to your intuition and allow yourself to charge full steam ahead with the process of finding your Mama-Groove.
Love, Joanna x