To all the frazzled, burnt-out moms out there. I see you. I feel you. I was you.
Sometimes, I am you.
And, I get it. You do A LOT. Your to-do list is ever-growing, and so are the bags under your eyes.
Nap time is never long enough, if you’re lucky enough to get one at all. You feel like the world is going to collapse if you aren’t always on your “A” game.
You beat yourself up when you deliver anything less than perfect. You feel every mom, but you, has her life together (not true by the way).
Your inner critic is a real bitch. You get frustrated more than you want. From time to time, you use a tone you are less than proud of. And your “mom guilt” is a strong force within you.
When it comes to you and your family there are no boundaries. You are in a constant state of giving and it feels like your partner and kids are in a constant state of taking. You have lost your balance – or maybe feel you never had it in the first place. Being out of balance is the root cause of the chaos within your home and family, and it’s in your control to get things into a peaceful state.
I can tell you first-hand, that a burnt-out mom, a workaholic dad, and child who knows just which buttons to press provide the perfect ingredients for marital distress, and unhappiness all round. This combination can suck the good energy out of any home (and marriage), leaving both partners with very little time and energy for one another, and the child or children feeling invisible.
Without a safe, supportive and high-mood place to talk about feelings and emotions, lots of stressors and frustrations can get bottled up. This is the case for every member of the family, especially the parents. They are the ones that usually need to do the most sharing, processing, and forgiving. In fact, most of my clients feel the biggest results within the family came from creating more joyful, relaxing, heartfelt moments between the partners.
The changes you and your partner make will have a massive impact on the well-being of your children.
Your children mirror you:
they simply reflect back the actions, habits, language, and beliefs that they observe from you, both the helpful and the harmful.
The same goes for your attitude towards taking responsibility for your health and happiness, or lack thereof. Without a doubt, your attitude towards seeking help and support around the challenges within your life is the biggest factor in your child’s ability to do the same.
Just think about it. How can you expect your child to be vulnerable and take action to improve his or her mental, physical, and spiritual health if you are not doing the same and leading the way?
That is the genius in conscious family coaching – it provides a platform for parents and children to casually and openly discuss fears, dreams, embarrassments, frustrations and challenging behaviors, all while feeling safe, loved, and connected to one another.
So what are you waiting for? If you are interested in learning more on how conscious parenting can transform your life then please get in touch.
Love , Jo xx